Pagiging Mabait: Nakakasama kapag sobra

And I'm back..but unfortunately, there will be no photo/s for this blog entry so reader's might find it boring unless some might finish reading it patiently. It's the thought that count sabi nga nila.hehe and by the way, the next lines will be in written in Tagalog so my apology for my foreign readers if there's any...hehe who knows? you can ask help from your Filipino friends to understand what I'm talking about. So to begin with...


Isa sa mga itinuro sa atin ng ating mga magulang at iba pang mga nakatatanda ay maging mabait, magpakabait at iwasang maging masama. Oo tama sila, pero may mga instances na, nakakasama daw ang pagiging mabait....hmmm kapag sumobra na. bakit kaya? Una, maraming tao ang Umaabuso sa kabaitan ng isang tao. Tumpak! Yan ang tamang salita, Abuso. Sa papaanong paraan ba naaabuso ang kabaitan ng isang tao? kung tutuusin, sa maraming paraan, sa maraming dahilan at sa maraming sitwasyon at pagkakataon, maaaring sa loob at labas ng bahay, sa eskwelahan, sa pamayanan at iba pa.


Madalas nating marinig ang mga linyang "masama din ang pagiging sobrang mabait" sa pelikula, sa litanya ng ibang tao, o maaaring sa sermon ng ilang mga taong nakapaligid sa atin. Okay, magbigay tayo ng mga common na scenario na madalas naman nating naeencounter na nagiging masama ang pagiging mabait dahil nga madalas maabuso.


* Sa isang grupo, mapabarkada man yan o kahit yung simpleng grupo sa mga school projects, etc. Una may isa dyan na aako ng mga gastusin sa lakad, pagkain etc. yun bang kung tawagin sa grupo ay "Human ATM" or "ATM ng barkada". Ang bait di ba? kaya sa sobrang bait niya, sa mga sumunod na mga lakad ng grupo siya pa din ang nagiging taya. Bigla na nga niyang nagiging obligasyon ang gastusan lahat ng lakad na meron sila. Okay naman yan, kung likas na mayaman or may stable na trabaho yung tao and kung masaya siya sa ginagawa niya. Eh yun na nga,kahit naman ganun, mahiya din naman sana yung iba, paano pala kung estudyante lang din siya at sa magulang pa umaasa ng panggastos? Pwede naman din mag kanya kanya kung minsan di ba?alin ka dun sa dalawa? yung mabait na naabuso? or yung nang-abuso sa kabaitan ng iba?


*Sa grupo pa rin. Nakatagpo na ba kayo ng isang magaling at mabait na Leader? yun tipong pag may kasalanang nagawa ang ilan sa mga kagrupo niya, aakuin niya ang kasalanan para maisalba sila. Wow instant bayani and savior. sana naman pag paulit ulit nang nangyayari yung ganyang sitwasyon, akuin naman na din ng taong may kasalanan. di ba tayo nahihiya kung mangyaring mapaparusahan ang mabait mong kasama sa kasalanang hindi niya naman ginawa?


Sa exams... Yan tayo eh, lahat tayo gustong pumasa. Pero aasa tayo sa mga kilala nating mababait, matalino at di alintana ang pagpapakopya. Hoy, nagpuyat yan matutunan lang lahat ng posibleng lumabas sa exam. May pa-Team work team work pang nalalaman eh iisa or dadalawang tao lang naman ang nag-eeffort, eh yung iba pag di pinakopya, nganga na? at sila pa ang galit kung sakali. subukan din kaya na magaral ng mabuti para masubukan din ang sariling kakayahan, malay mo madiskubre mong, mas magaling ka pa pala sa kinokopyahan mo, saka mas nakakapanatag ng loob yung kampante kang papasa ka dhil pinaghirapan mo kaysa sa kakaba kaba ka at alangan ang pagpasa dahil kumopya ka. Hindi ako kagalingan nung panahong ako'y nagaaral pa. Ako man ay naranasan ko rin ang kumpoya at magpakoya kaya alam ko ang pakiramdam na naghihintay ng resulta. mas magandang pinaghirapan kaysa umasa lagi sa matalino, masipag at mabait nating mga kaklase.


Sa isang Relasyon... Sa pagitan ng dalawang magkasintahan, may lilitaw at lilitaw dyan na sobrang bait or mas mabait kaysa sa kapareha kaya madalas naaabuso ang kabaitan nito sa lahat halos ng aspeto sa buhay. Yun lang mismong pagpaparamdam mo ng pagmamahal sa isang tao. Yun bang EFFORT na tinatawag nila. Hindi magiging maganda ang balanse ng isang relasyon na isa lang ang magwoworkout para dito. Isa pa, yung alam niyang mabait ka kaya sasamantalahin niya ito, gagawa ng kalokohan ng akala niyang makakalusot siya. sabi nga nila walang sikretong hindi nabubunyag. Yun ang problema sa sobrang bait na karelasyon, dahil sobrang bait niya, kahit alam na niyang nagloloko na ang kapareha, pagbibigyan pa niya ito ng pagkakataon, sa pagasang magbabago pa ito. "Everybody deserves a second chance nga naman daw" forgive and forget, pero paulit ulit na ginagawa, alam nang nagloloko pero sa sobrang bait, second chance ulit? ayan naging martir na. Sabi nga nila wag daw masyadong mabait, hwag masyado... magtira para sa sarili.


Sa trabaho. trabaho nga di ba? parehas kayong kikita, parehas kayong sasahod, kaya dapat lang pagpaguran nang naaayon sa ating natatanggap. Gawin mo ang trabaho mo at gagawin niya ang kanya. Division of Labor, division of work ika nga. pero ang nangyayari pati yung ibang mga gawain na ikaw dapat ang gagawa, siya na rin ang gumagawa. Ang bait di ba? eh kung sa kanya na rin kaya mapunta ang sahod na dapat ay para sayo. papayag ka ba?


ilan lamang yan sa mga sitwasyon na alam nating nangyayari sa araw araw na alam natin na tayo mismo makakapagpatunay na masama talaga ang pagiging sobrang bait.. Maaaring hindi lang natin nakikita at nalalaman yan; maaaring tayo mismo ay nakakaranas niyan, eh ang tanong, tayo ba yung taong naabuso ang kabaitan? or tayo ang umabuso sa sobrang bait ng isang tao?

The Friend or The One I Love

Hi! My name is Nick. I want to share this mini story of mine because I'm still confused if this feelings I have for a best friend of mine is just for friendship or more. I met this Girl named Julie when I was still a student way back several years ago in college. By that time she has her own circle of friends and I have mine as well, but due to some sort of activities in school, I started to know her better and luckily we became friends.


Julie and I became closer because we have a lot of things in common. I was welcomed in her circle of friends and soon treated me as their new brother. In the group, aside from Julie, I also met Candice, the most jolly in the group. we're click in some ways especially on our fun times, laughter and even on the other side, I mean when we're down, talking about serious things. One of the group is Sarah. She was sometimes, the opposite of Candice but not totally opposite, she always happened to be one of my group mates since the groupings were based according to our surnames, alphabetically. And Yanna,who's really a good dancer and always have this great sense when it comes to fashion and styling. Obviously, I am the only guy in the group, and I don't care what other people has to say, anyway it's always the same old brand new issues so the hell I care right? :)


Me and my new friends managed to enroll for another semester together and I was able to be close to my new friends and to Julie even more. During our 2nd year in college, I met this girl named Kristine who's also our classmate, I admit, at first I got a crush on her, because she's like the modern type of girl, she's sporty, fierce but she admired another friend of mine and she has some vices that I don't like and I don't think that fits a girl, so it's a major turn off for me. But luckily, she has a friend who caught my attention. Her name is Amanda.


How will I describe Amanda? she's like one of the boys, jolly, wise etc. We exchange numbers and started texting. On a conversation we had, she admitted that she had a crush on me so I was like overwhelmed and shocked, but felt loved even though it's just a crush. We also started our friendly dates, we ate outside after classes, watched movies together if there's a time etc etc. Julie and our friends at first had no idea on what was going on between me and Amanda, though I give them some hints but still they remained clueless. Sooner, Amanda became my 1st girlfriend wherein at first it did not sink in my mind, and some questions came out, how? hahaha seems like I did not have the guts to court her that often, however I'm still happy with what had happened.


In the middle of our relationship, we have this on and off, arguments etc, and that's the time I told my friends about our relationship, and I'm so happy that they supported my relationship with her even at times of not so good convos and arguments. We also had this on and off in our relationship, which I admit that it's my fault, even though I'm loyal to her, but I don't have lots of time to spend with her since semesters passed, she had shifted to another course. and during our last year in college, our relationship had ended. I just concentrated with my studies.


Final year in college was very tough, we have to go through lots and lots of exams for us to graduate. First half of the final year, we've met a new set of circle of friends, and had the chance to get close to them. We also have groupings that time and Julie had met this guy, a classmate of ours, named Russell. Julie and Russell easily became close and as the day goes by, became closer and closer. Russell is a smart guy, sweet and nice. There comes a time that I got jealous though I have no right to be jealous. The following semester, Julie and Russell became in a relationship, and I was like WHAAATT? and asking myself, "why do I get jealous?" , "why do I feel this way?" feels like I did not just lose a best friend, but a love as well, but why should I since in the first place, Julie and I have no relationship and commitment with each other, and I'm pretty sure that what I felt that time, was not the same how she felt when me and Amanda were together.


Julie always have a special place in my heart, we have a lot of things in common, we have a lot of same interests, we were buddies in so many ways, food trip buddies, music buddies, my singing partner, etc, but she's now with Russell. Sometimes, our friends teased me and Julie, when we sang together or when Julie's away and our friends and I heard songs we used to sing,. Their relationship became stronger and continued after graduating in college. But, relationship must go through a lot of tests for them to be able to survive and became stronger and stronger. Few months after our graduation, Russell and his family moved to Canada and I guess lived there for a long period of time. This Long Distance Relationship thing tested their relationship but unfortunately, they failed to survived and Julie ended their relationship. By that time i just don't know how to react; there's a side of me that says "yes, at least I just have this opportunity to tell my feelings for her!" but there's another side of me that felt sorry for her, and that I have to be a best friend, a good listener and a crying shoulder to her. But I only had the chance to see Julie again several months after they broke up, so we chatted and she opened about what happened and surprisingly, she already moved on and I'm happy for her.


Julie decided to study another course and I began working. Among our circle of friends, Julie and I had the chance to go out more often than with the others. We make sure that our schedule matched the day we wanted to go out. Sometimes we were inviting, Sarah, Candice, Yana and the others but due to busy schedules, still the two of us able to go out. We watched movies together, we ate outside, etc, but it's just a friendly date, but for me, there's nothing to lose but more to gain...A friendship that no one knows might become a lot deeper but for know I am enjoying my company with her as best friends, best buddies etc.

Flashback RN Heals 2013

No post for 2013..yes for the entire year. It all started from a text message coming from the HR dept. of East Avenue Medical Center, saying that I need to report for RN Heals Orientation. Before that, I was feeling hopeless that 2013 would be another jobless year for me because I've been passing lots of resumes and other requirements on different hospitals and institutions and yet no one is responding. Going back to the message, after reading it, I was surprised and feel blessed, since I was given a new job just right after the New Year's Day.


Getting Started


I began working on the said institution, after completing all requirements needed, attending lots of orientations, trainings and seminars, and meeting new friends that later became a new family. I was assigned to work at 4 North Male Surgical Ward. Originally we are supposed to be 20 RNH assigned on the said ward but 1 has backed out even the memo has been released, and so we were 19.

And so we began our benign duty handling 3 patients each at first. And as the time goes by, little by little we were assigned to handle 6 then 9 then 12 and maximum of 18. Sometimes duties were toxic but because of the team work, we manage to finish our task on time or few minutes later depending on the gravity of the toxicity in the ward..haha I even experienced finishing all the task 2 hours late due to toxic duty. Anyway that's life, that's what I wanted and that's my passion. naks :)


At East Ave I have gained new friends, new buddies etc, actually all of them were my friends and family as well but I have these 5 friends who became much closer to me and they were all girls and I don't care if I'm just the only guy on the group. anyway even though we have this circle of friends, we still manage to be friends with our co-rn heals and other staff.

Basil Life Support Training


This training was one of the most memorable training I had on East Ave since we were free from attending duties for 2 days, and we had fun, we had bonding and many others. :O

Night Duties


At first I'm kinda excited to be rotated on night duties since time flies so fast on that shift. Body clock has changed, zombie mode alert..hohoho though I also enjoyed being rotated on night duties, because of the bonding and food trips even during or after duties.

Night Outs


PM shift or 2-10 shift is my favorite shift among other shifts. Some reasons were 1st, I have learned to work as fast as I can and finish all the tasks on time, 2nd, even though I did always go home in the midnight, I still manage to complete eight hours of sleep, and lastly the night outs..yeah yeah yeah baby..hahaha Foodtrip after duty, karaoke, celebration etc, that's how we unwind after a toxic or even benign duties. :)

Ordinary Days at the ward and outside the ward


Duties in the ward can either be, toxic or benign. However there's a lot of fun and learning on it.

With my deck mates


I also felt the love and comfort being with my deck mates because of the bonding we had during our duty, the "gala-after" and many others. :)

Birthdays


Birthdays? Oh we love Birthdays.. those were the days celebrating everyone's birthday at homes, at the ward and even outside the hospital. Another way of unwinding after a tiring duty.

The 4 North Babies


Our ward was assigned to host a seminar that is why we prepared dance number for the said seminar, thus 4 North Babies has been created

Christmas Time and our final days


t'is the season to be jolly lalalalalalalalala..haha Christmas season mark our final days on the ward, separation anxiety started building up by that time so we made the most out of it so that the remaining days will be so memorable.

Definitely it was a year to cherish, a year to remember, I am missing them already. Before the drama goes on..hahaha thanks for reading this post of mine.. Have a great day :)